A few weeks ago, I had lunch with Ryan, a VP of Design in Tech, and we chatted about leadership over a nice bowl of pho soup. Ryan asked for my thoughts on modulating between coaching and other leadership tools. Here is what we discussed:
The basic toolkit of leadership includes coaching, mentoring, giving/receiving feedback, setting a vision, holding accountability with self/others.
Coaching, as a core tool of leadership is a reflective inquiry method that allows others to unfold in their own creativity. It can be a very powerful tool when used by leaders in developing and growing other leaders. However, it is not always the right tool to use.
How do you know when to use coaching versus a different tool?
Here are a couple tips on when to modulate your coaching as a leader:
Happy New Year!
For many, the new year represents a marker or milestone that brings about self-reflection. We often lead such busy lives, that it is important to pause, breathe and reflect on who we have become and who we are becoming. Here is a tip: You don't have to wait for an annual marker like the new year or a birthday to do this. In fact, you stand a better chance of reaching your goals if you check-in with yourself more regularly - quarterly, monthly, weekly or even daily!
Whatever interval you pick, here are some questions you may use to kickstart your self-reflection:
Confidence and Awareness are two ingredients I’ve identified as necessary to any personal transformation journey. More on awareness later ...
A tip on confidence I’ve learned from my coaching clients is to displace that self limiting belief, whatever it is for you, filled with doubt and judgment, with this empowering one
I am capable and I am enough
A few months ago, I had to employ this tip when I took on an expanded role at work. I found myself in a fog, I had to quickly learn new functional areas, build a team of leaders, while balancing critical strategic initiatives. I recalled this statement from my clients which helped me replace doubt with assurance. Assurance that I was capable and enough allowed me to act!
Confidence doesn’t mean knowing. It means trusting that everything will work out as it should so give life a chance and take action now.
You know the saying, breakfast is the most important meal of the day? Well, it's not just about meals but how you start your day really does define your day. This goes back to perspectives. You setup the theme of your day with whatever you start it with and that shapes how the rest of your day flows.
For a long time, I started my day by grabbing my phone - to catch up on emails. Let's face it, I still do this on some days. But you know what? It really doesn't matter whether that 10pm email gets answered at 6am. However, what has been rather rewarding, is starting my day with gratitude. For me, it is mostly gratitude to my Creator for what I have been granted to experience.
What does gratitude look like for you? Whatever you are grateful for, I urge you to start your day with gratitude. Just 3 minutes once you get up - dedicated to just you, your experiences and your expression of gratitude. This may take the form of a prayer, a yoga sun salutation or an unexpected appreciation to a friend. Try this out for a week and experience the difference it makes!
Spoiler alert: What you put your energy in is what comes to you. You'll see more gratitude flowing your way!
Last week, I was out sick for a few days. I felt terrible. On one of those days, I needed to log into my computer. I mustered whatever strength I could gather, and hunched over my laptop with a tissue box by my side.
Then, I entered in my password. The strangest thing happened. I immediately felt myself sitting up straight. A smile flashed across my face. My password inspires me! It reminds me of the things I want to remember every single day. And it works!
If you follow my blog, you know I talk about structures/anchors - those things that remind you of what you want to remember. Passwords are a great anchor to remind you of what you must do every single day. What does your password inspire you to do?
This blog represents my experiences and convictions as at when I wrote them. As I grow, my perspectives may expand. Take and share only what resonates with you, and leave the rest. Happy reading!